At different times, we all experience periods of stress or crisis and feeling low, and can feel that we are not ourselves, or that things aren’t right.  Even the most resilient person may experience distressing feelings that circumstances are beyond their control, or has the realisation that “I can’t do this on my own".  Perhaps you have attempted discussions with well meaning people which has left you feeling worse - misunderstood, unheard, dismissed or even judged, which can be damaging to the way we feel about ourselves and what we feel is achievable. 

 

Sometimes, our inner dialogue can become persecutory and critical,  such as ”stop procrastinating and just get on with it” or “you should be able to cope with this”.  Such advice may have worked in some situations, but can eventually leave us feeling less able to cope. Making such demands on ourselves prevents us from acknowledging our vulnerability, taking the time we need, and truly connecting with others to receive support at a time when we could most benefit from it.